Is It True That May-December Marriages Don't Last?

Couples who have chosen to get married between May and December have long had stories told about them. People tend to call women gold diggers if they get married to a man who is much older than she is. That's because our society is much more accepting of romances between partners of similar ages. Society usually doesn't have a problem when the people are no more than five years apart. Historically, that meant that the woman should be 3-5 years younger than her husband. This isn't always the case nowadays though, as more and more celebrity women are being seen with guys who are younger than they are. Which age range would be the ideal situation for a couple looking to get married?

No one can really agree when it comes to this issue. People who argue against a drastic age difference will say that people who are too far apart in age won't have much in common. When they were growing up, they had different values, lifestyles, and even taste in music. After all, if a 20-something woman marries a 70-something man, he most likely isn't going to be able to keep up with her active lifestyle. Discrepancies such as this can lead to infidelities, a lack of trust, and a flaunting of respect. This certainly wouldn't be the best situation to be in.

Some might point out that an older man can receive comfort and companionship from a younger woman. If the woman is particularly devoted to her man, she can be a real asset to him. Unfortunately, younger women in these relationships are often bored and probably didn't love their husbands all that much when they married them. Woman who enter these relationships are looking for financial or security which usually isn't enough to give a marriage going strong.

Does this mean that it's good for older women to marry younger man though? Some people would say that this is a good situation since women typically outlive men. However, this relationship would suffer from many of the disadvantages of an older man and younger woman together. There just isn't much common ground between the two partners. They don't enjoy the same friends, and whereas the older spouse may now be content to spend quiet time at home, the younger one is more likely to want bright lights and excitement. These differences can easily be too much to overcome for many couples.

One should easily be able to see why it is so hard for these marriages to last. If the older partner is paying the bills, then he or she certainly wouldn't want to worry about their partner running around cheating.

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on marriage and Marriage Success Secrets.